- We admitted we were harming ourselves and allowing others to dishonor us—operating from a one-down, exploited place in relationship to the SAC.
- Came to value ourselves and found the inner power to relate to others from a place of true equality.
- Enhanced and expanded our spirituality and values—establishing appropriate boundaries—however that may play out in our lives.
- Realized that we hurt all persons in our lives—most of all ourselves—when we allow ourselves to be devalued and disrespected by anyone.
- Sought to create ethical equality in all our relationships, thereby healing relational trauma, with the help of others and spiritual resources.
- Explored our specific trauma patterns and boundary absences/violations and the ways those play out in our lives.
- Asked for a transformational rebirth in our own lives to change those trauma patterns to life-enhancing vigor.
- Became willing to restore our own lives first—others thereafter—establishing appropriate boundaries according to our values.
- Sought for ourselves amends for the ways that we hurt and endangered ourselves—as long as doing so would not violate our dignity or cause us long-term harm. Made direct amends to those we have harmed by neglecting ourselves and them as long as doing so did not create a greater harm.
- Continued to re-assess our values and our boundaries.
- Sought deepened spirituality and the strength to live into our values and to establish appropriate boundaries.
- Having had a spiritual deepening and regained self-respect, our lives vibrantly reflect these changes and we practice these values in all areas of our lives.